Why you did not need motivation 39 t

Why you did not need motivation 39 t As coach, I often say that the lack of motivation? Indeed, the? Motivation debate? is almost a ritual with my new clients. You want something, indeed, almost need, but not? T have the unit must be preserved. Consequently, it is your fault, you do in your disappointment, the sense of guilt, or frustration? increasingly distant from your goal.But, because they do not always thorough enough to achieve our goals in the first place? And 'we are not given enough? Or maybe we are not tough enough and strong? The way I see things, motivation is similar to SAP, in the structure: it keeps the tree alive? In reality, it is of vital importance? ma? s useless, if the tree (the target), has its roots in poor, unhealthy reasons. It is not our motivation, the real objective, is the other way around: If our goals are healthy, the drive to take action flows naturally. If our goals are unhealthy, we need to give us all the way to? Success? ? and not? t even feel like celebrating the end (if we get it). So, what is? unhealthy? Goal? E 'a goal we have for the wrong reasons, or with the wrong attitude is rooted in poor grounds. It's not that we do not lose weight, it's just that we decided to do this, why not? T like (not to mention love) and we think that the patch the problem. It's not that we do not have with this new company, it's just that we are dead, the fear of failure. E? S unrelated to the study of law, it is just that we do so only to honor our (deceased), father? S-values and desires. There are many factors that are literally kill our motivation at its roots, but certainly not weak? T one of them. The real motivation inhibitors go more on this subject: - Our goal is not a real priority (Going to the gym, if you have three children to care) - We believe that our goal is not reachable (A new Volvo when possible? T afford Toyota) - Our objective was inspired or someone else (That law degree? Or maybe your partner wants to stop smoking) - Our goal is motivated by self-denial, and not as self-respect (very often, and always neglected. people trying to lose weight, which often) - Our goal is strong? should ", or dynamic? needs? but not? want? (It would be appropriate, on terms more favorable with the other members of the family, but I am very angry about the recent events to change anything really) - We are afraid of success, fear of failure. The fear of something (we are in contradiction with our goal, we have mixed motives? "Although we are not known) - Our goal is not in line with our true self (looking for a job in an area that can not be? we feel T) - Some of us may not? t want to reach our goal, for some reason (we know that if we are to achieve our goal, we will have to do something or we Repulse) - We feel overwhelmed by all the measures we have to take (we have a disco un po 'di time step at a time) - A recent failure makes us feel powerless Etc.When-we are looking at this, we know that the results there (or not receive) are an accurate reflection of what we think and feel deeply. We assume no experience in life, what we had hoped, but what we think we deserve what we expect, what we are confident that this poll? S, as you create. Does not feel much motivation for a goal that is inconsistent with our convictions and thoughts? as idyllic as this goal, in May be.Motivation is not it? t on the resistance and strength? It is about the orientation. This is not necessarily to want something very badly? But they want something more completely. If the lack of motivation, a part of us says:? I don? T want to achieve this goal? no? t do I need?. Maybe it's time to meet our goal? perhaps we need to look inwards and to other things (see list below). Or maybe we just need to breathe, relax, and listen to the wind for a while '? ABOUT THE AUTHOR Marie-Pier Charron, life coach, is the founder and publisher of implosion of a monthly newsletter with practical and powerful strategies for empowerment. To make your free subscription, visit the